The Importance Of Being Reviewed & Quizzing Your Reviewers

writing 2Being an author takes a lot of courage—but receiving feedback from your readers takes more than that. It takes an iron constitution. Have you ever found yourself faced with a one-star review? How about face-to-face with a reader who didn’t like your book? How did you react? This blog article is all about turning your readers, with opinions, into writing enhancers.

Be Curious About What Your Reader Has to Say

When we speak about listening with curiosity, we’re talking about showing genuine interest in what others are saying to you. All too often we listen without really showing interest. We are impatient and truly show a lack of attentiveness, which in turn hampers constructive conversation. We are too focused on our own agenda. Be genuinely curious. Don’t do all the talking, and keep interruptions to a minimum.  Pace the conversation, and don’t be afraid to keep it focused and on target. Be involved and your reader will be involved, too.

Learn, Learn, Learn

Sometimes you can project all the necessary nonverbal cues to give the other person a sense that you’re listening with curiosity, but you could still be failing to take in any information. While projecting a sense of curiosity, don’t forget to absorb and register what is actually being said. You need to hear the words, read the gestures, and take in the thoughts, ideas, and emotions of the other party. To take in what you hear, you need to pace the conversation and put yourself in the shoes of the other party. If you aren’t listening—you aren’t learning. If a reader picks up on the fact that you are listening—they will share more information with you.

Notes Are King

Reflecting back with interest shows the person you’re really listening and confirms that you have digested the information they wanted to share with you. It also allows the person to hear back what he or she has said and to check within him or herself: Is it exactly what he or she meant to say? Try to take notes, and refer back to them often. Don’t be afraid to ask your reader to delve deeper into what they’ve said. Try to get to the root of their issues.

Ask Questions…

Asking questions extends the conversation and allows for a more productive dialogue. Ask open-ended questions that allow more exploration to take place. By asking open ended questions, you give your protégés an opportunity to find answers within themselves. When someone actually discovers the answers for themselves, it empowers them. When you question for exploration, you reinforce in their minds that you believe in them, and that their opinions, knowledge, and experience are worthwhile. You build their confidence. Look to build the confidence of your reader to say the things about your book they really want to say.

Don’t Be Afraid to Give Back

Feedback is often thought of as being inherently critical, but that need not be the case. Successful authors are careful and discriminating about how they employ feedback, knowing that poor or incomplete feedback could stifle their projects or even cause feelings of inadequacy in them. The successful author avoids the common mistake of using feedback as a vehicle for asserting expertise.

One thought on “The Importance Of Being Reviewed & Quizzing Your Reviewers

  1. Great post.
    I’d not thought of reviews in that way before. Getting to talk to reviewers must be a great tool to pick someones mind about what they didn’t like and what they do. Kinda beta-reader advanced.

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